Search
  • christie cuthbert

8 Ways to Be Present In Life Today

By Christie Cuthbert



This morning my phone popped up with an alert informing me of my screen time usage the week prior. I had averaged 5 hours per day.

Roughly one-third of my time spent awake on this planet was staring at my phone, probably answering an email, commenting on someone’s cute social media post or ordering something for a school project. Some of that time was for pleasure, and some for work or running the household. But regardless, it’s time I’m not actively engaged in what’s happening right before my eyes.

“Being Present” to me is a multi-faceted idea. On the one hand it does take some screen time, checking in on friends and family via text or maybe researching something that may help one of my kids. On the other, it means stopping what I’m doing to play a round of air hockey or Legos. It’s meaningful discussions on the drive to school and going around the table at dinner to check in and find out what matters to my people.

Overtime, I’ve googled ways to be present in my life, but as a mom of four young boys, majority of the lists are not realistic. So, I’ve formed my own ways to make connections and reserve a front row seat in my movie of a life.

1.Set Your Alarm 15 Minutes Earlier – The mornings in our house are crazy. Trying to get four boys dressed, fed and in the car with all their school gear by 7:28 a.m. is a sprint. Waking 15 minutes earlier allows me a moment to think and reflect before the madness begins. I read the news, or just sit with my thoughts while my coffee brews. It’s a moment to be present with myself, gaining some clarity before the hustling of the day begins.

2. Make it a Point to Say I Love You – My husband is a rock star, who works countless hours making a great life for our family. At this point, we are a well-oiled machine. His long hours have become the norm for our family, and we manage it by making the most out of every second he’s home. Often, we’re passing ships in the night, but every morning and night, we tell each other, “I Love You.” It’s a simple reminder each day as we enter the grind and as we reflect on it, that we have a cheerleader in our corner.

3. Check in on Friends – Set aside 30 minutes a few times a week to shoot a quick text to close friends to check in. Facebook and Instagram are great for us all staying connected. But an individual message letting someone know you’re thinking of them and truly interested in what’s happening in their lives is much more meaningful than a quick “like” or emoji.

4. Set Kiddo Office Hours – Find a certain time of the day that you can carve out a few hours to put your phone down completely and interact with your kids. It’s not easily done in today’s world. People can get ahold of us any hour of the day and expect to, with a prompt reply. At the end of the day, anything can wait two hours. For me, this time is often between dinner and bed. My little guys beg for me to snuggle, and with four, it takes a lot to give each one of them the individual attention they deserve. By starting our bedtime routine 30 minutes earlier, we have more time for books and hugs and less of the witching hours. And regardless of how our day played out, it always ends on a good, snuggly moment.

5. Give Back – This doesn’t have to be some huge gesture, but the act of doing something for someone else brings you into the present without even knowing it. Whether it’s packing a few extra brown bagged lunches to drop with the homeless people you pass along the way to school, or simply baking some cookies and dropping them off for an elderly neighbor, the act itself invigorates your spirit. You will feel renewed, and on this particular day, in the present, you added some good into the world.

6. Turn Up the Music – Whether you have the good fortune of sitting down to dinner as a family, or you’re rushing from one activity to another eating in the car, finding a post dinner song to rock out to with your kids is a great way to connect and create a lasting memory. Three to four minutes of your life, singing at the top of your lungs can relieve a lot of end of day stress, and your kids will have a blast making fun of your dance moves.

7. Soak Up Your Parents and Grandparents – If you’re one of the blessed who still have parents or grandparents alive, appreciate every moment you can with them. Ask them stories from the past, learn from their mistakes and accomplishments. Our time here on earth is fleeting. Spending quality time with them also gives them a sense of purpose and allows them to be present.

8. Hone Your Intuition – In today’s world we all move quickly, because we have to. What is expected of us today as mothers far exceeds that of generations before us. Finding the ability to hone into your intuition, looking for guidance from the universe in your everyday actions helps you be more present. As a mom of four, I’m constantly looking ahead, setting up doctor’s appointments and making sure uniforms are pressed. I get so bogged down in the daily routine, I often miss the subtle messages to slow down and appreciate the now, like the cardinals that sing in my bird feeder while I wash dishes. They remind me to slow down. The signs are all around us, and if we’re present we’ll see them.

84 views

Recent Posts

See All

Turn the Page

My husband likes to tell a story of when he was a child and his mom bought him lady shoes. Just like my four boys, as a kid he spent most days outside, tearing it up in the streets: riding bikes, clim